You may think that rolling your eyes or making a joke at your partner’s expense are no big deal. Wrong. What you are doing in those moments is poisoning your…
Read moreGottman Part 5 of 5- Repair Attempts
This is the last post in our Gottman series. Today, we are looking at repair attempts. Inevitably, we are going to screw it up from time to time with our…
Read moreGottman Part 4 of 5 – The Soft Start Up
Here we are at post four in our Gottman series. Today, let’s look at soft (rather than harsh) start-ups. How one begins a conversation, requests a behavior change, expresses a…
Read moreGottman Part 3 of 5 – Can you accept influence?
On to post three in our Gottman series. Today we look at the importance of accepting influence from one’s partner. Let me start by saying that this one is mostly for the…
Read moreGottman Part 2 of 5 – Positive and Negative Sentiment Override
Continuing on in our Gottman series, today we are looking at a concept called sentiment override. Sentiment override falls into two categories: negative sentiment override (NSO) and positive sentiment override (PSO).…
Read moreGottman Part 1 of 5 – The Sound Relationship House
Quite a while back, we did a shallow dive into the work and wisdom of John Gottman, the person who has clocked more hours observing couples in action than any…
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