We have looked at three different continuums of communication and engagement, conceptualized by the wife and husband therapist team, Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. Let’s delve a little deeper into…
Read moreCommunication Continuums; Engagement – Part 4 of 5
Continuing on in our series of blog posts on the different continuums of communication, another way to assess your relationship is along the lines of how engaged each of you…
Read moreCommunication Continuums; the Inquirer – Part 3 of 5
The role of the Inquirer is to be an effective listener. In doing so, you are inquiring into your partner’s world. The inquirer needs to: Listen calmly and actively and…
Read moreCommunication Continuums; the Initiator – Part 2 of 5
Let’s look more deeply at the role of the initiator, the person who is interested in exploring a complaint, frustration or something that may be weighing on them. The initiator…
Read moreCommunication Continuums – Part 1 of 5
Continuing on with my high regard for the work of author and couples therapist Ellyn Bader and her husband Peter Pearson, we are going to be taking a look at…
Read moreLie Inviting Behavior – What is it?
In a recent blog post, I introduced Ellyn Bader’s concept of “lie inviting behavior.” I remember the first time I was introduced to this idea ~ that the way we…
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