I read an interesting concept recently referred to as the 70/20/10 rule of thumb for long term committed relationship. It implies the following: You need to like and/or appreciate 70%…
Read moreWhy is John Bowlby important to our understanding of how we love?
A bit of a time commitment, however, the below is another nugget from The School of Life. In this essay, the contributions of English psychoanalyst John Bowlby on our understanding…
Read moreThe 3 Most Important Ingredients In A Loving Relationship
Here is another gem from the School of Life. This essay captures so much of what I see in couples who come into therapy frustrated with their partner or with…
Read moreNavigating Gridlock
Gridlock in a relationship is optional. Sadly though, it is all too present in many relationships, and shows up when partners cannot effectively deal with their opposing ideas, views, desires,…
Read moreThe 3 Phases of Love – Part 3
The last post in our series on what John Gottman has to say about the three phases of love ends today with Phase 3. Phase 3: Building Commitment and Loyalty…
Read moreThe 3 Phases of Love – Part 2
Gottman has this to say about the second phase of love: Phase 2: Building Trust “The big questions of Phase 2 of love are, “Will you be there for me?…
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