John Gottman’s research points towards what is called” the soft start-up” increasing the odds that a difficult conversation will be successful rather than derailed. If you need to have a…
Read moreThe 70/20/10 Rule of Thumb for Relationships
I read an interesting concept recently referred to as the 70/20/10 rule of thumb for long term committed relationship. It implies the following: You need to like and/or appreciate 70%…
Read moreWhy is John Bowlby important to our understanding of how we love?
A bit of a time commitment, however, the below is another nugget from The School of Life. In this essay, the contributions of English psychoanalyst John Bowlby on our understanding…
Read moreNecessary Ingredients
Do you talk, or spew?
I thought I’d share this wonderful essay from one of my favorite psychotherapy bloggers, Ginger Sullivan. Which are you more inclined to do, talk or spew? For the sake of…
Read moreAttuned Listening
Being an attuned listener is not something that comes naturally to most of us. Few of us were listened to in this way, nor was it modeled for us in…
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