I thought I’d share this wonderful essay from one of my favorite psychotherapy bloggers, Ginger Sullivan. Which are you more inclined to do, talk or spew? For the sake of…
Read moreAttuned Listening
Being an attuned listener is not something that comes naturally to most of us. Few of us were listened to in this way, nor was it modeled for us in…
Read moreThe 3 Most Important Ingredients In A Loving Relationship
Here is another gem from the School of Life. This essay captures so much of what I see in couples who come into therapy frustrated with their partner or with…
Read moreDefensiveness In Its Many Forms
According to John Gottman, Defensiveness in interpersonal relationships is considered to be one of the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Often, defensiveness is adopted in response to an actual or…
Read moreNavigating Gridlock
Gridlock in a relationship is optional. Sadly though, it is all too present in many relationships, and shows up when partners cannot effectively deal with their opposing ideas, views, desires,…
Read moreThe 3 Phases of Love – Part 3
The last post in our series on what John Gottman has to say about the three phases of love ends today with Phase 3. Phase 3: Building Commitment and Loyalty…
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