John Gottman’s research points towards what is called” the soft start-up” increasing the odds that a difficult conversation will be successful rather than derailed. If you need to have a…
Read moreDo you talk, or spew?
I thought I’d share this wonderful essay from one of my favorite psychotherapy bloggers, Ginger Sullivan. Which are you more inclined to do, talk or spew? For the sake of…
Read moreAttuned Listening
Being an attuned listener is not something that comes naturally to most of us. Few of us were listened to in this way, nor was it modeled for us in…
Read moreDefensiveness In Its Many Forms
According to John Gottman, Defensiveness in interpersonal relationships is considered to be one of the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Often, defensiveness is adopted in response to an actual or…
Read moreFor the sake of the story
Are you familiar with StoryCorps, the syndicated public radio show in which one person interview another, solely for the sake of hearing their story? The questions posed by the interviewer…
Read moreThe Rules of Life
If you have spent any time reading this blog, you know how much I admire The School of Life. Click on the highlighted link and scroll across the too navigation…
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