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20 Questions

Do you find yourself at dinner, sitting across from your partner, feeling like there is nothing to talk about?  Have you lost your sense of curiosity about your partner?  Feeling dull, or boring?  Try something new.  The next time you and your partner are in a situation in which engaged conversation would be preferable to silence or a perfunctory “how was your day”, pull out the below questions.  They can help to spark discussions that you might not otherwise have.

20 Questions: A fun game for couples who think they already know everything about each other:

  1. What’s your favorite memory of something we’ve done together?
  2. If you could travel anywhere in the world where would that be and why?
  3. What things in your life bring you the most joy?
  4. What do you like best about me?
  5. If you could spend a whole day doing something you love, what would that be?
  6. What’s the most important thing that your mom taught you?
  7. What big dream do you most want to pursue?
  8. Is there a limiting belief in you that keeps you from pursuing your big dream?  What do you think it is?
  9. If nobody judged you as being conceited, what would you say is your best attribute, quality, or accomplishment?
  10. What do you admire the most about your father?
  11. What do you think about the most during a regular day?
  12. If you were an amazing artist, what would you create, paint, sculpt, or design?
  13. How do you most aspire to be as a partner to me?
  14. What do you say to yourself when you’re feeling anxious or afraid?
  15. If you could hit the rewind button, what part of your life would you want to change?
  16. What’s a secret that you’ve never shared with anyone, including me?
  17. What questions do you have a hard time asking me? For example, questions about money or sex.
  18. What is your single greatest accomplishment in life? Who helped that become a reality?
  19. What do you want to be remembered for?
  20. What do you want our legacy as a couple to be?

Until next time, peace.