For all those who aspire to be a less self-absorbed, more present and more empathetic version of themselves in 2019, please allow me to encourage you to read David Foster Wallace’s…
Read moreThe Symbiotic Bind
According to Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, “over time many partners create symbiotic binds for each other. These binds arise out of unresolved issues from each partner’s early development,…
Read moreThe Relationship Trajectory – Part 3
This is the final installment in our series on the work of Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson’s Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. The substages that are described below are experienced as less painful…
Read moreThe Relationship Trajectory – Part 2
On to the next post in this series on the stages of healthy relationship development, from Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson. This is where couples will often get stuck, gridlock,…
Read moreThe Relationship Trajectory – Part 1
The work of Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson heavily influences how I think about and work with couples in therapy. They recently shared a very cogent synopsis of their perspective…
Read moreWhat is your ACE score, and why does it matter?
The ACE (adverse childhood events) quiz is a list of 10 questions that take less than a minute to answer, probing for exposure in childhood to abuse, neglect, and dysfunction…
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