Being an attuned listener is not something that comes naturally to most of us. Few of us were listened to in this way, nor was it modeled for us in…
Read moreThe 3 Most Important Ingredients In A Loving Relationship
Here is another gem from the School of Life. This essay captures so much of what I see in couples who come into therapy frustrated with their partner or with…
Read moreDefensiveness In Its Many Forms
According to John Gottman, Defensiveness in interpersonal relationships is considered to be one of the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Often, defensiveness is adopted in response to an actual or…
Read moreFor the sake of the story
Are you familiar with StoryCorps, the syndicated public radio show in which one person interview another, solely for the sake of hearing their story? The questions posed by the interviewer…
Read moreFive Finger Breathing
Here is another technique to assist in managing anxiety. It is called Five Finger Breathing, and I encourage you to add this to your arsenal of self-soothing tools. I know I…
Read moreResilience
In these uncertain, tumultuous and scary times, I have been thinking a lot about resilience. I know am not alone in thinking about this psychological/emotional/constitutional capacity. The School of Life…
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